Written By Bo

Can’t remember when I first encountered the term – quite a number of years ago.

In spring of 2019 – the 4th breakup with KarunaDera – I was devastated. Crushed. I did something I’ve never done before: read a book back-to-back 4 or 5 times consecutively. “Conscious Uncoupling” by Katherine Woodward Thomas was spellbinding in a way I hadn’t experienced in any of the hundreds of self improvement books I’ve read. It resonated. It helped. I shortly thereafter worked with one of her coaches, dove into the steps (typically it’s recommended to have a minimum of 6 sessions), and read the book again. And again.

With the divorce rate in the USA over 50%, and in California over 60% (which doesn’t count dissatisfied couples), something isn’t working in committed relationships.

[I’m delighted and honored to also be Gottman Method level 2 certified for those who want to attempt salvaging their relationship, but…] We must have a workable plan for maintaining peace and respect when relationships are over.

In the spring of 2021, KD and I had our 5th and final break. I knew it was time to go even deeper into the profound work I had scratched the surface of.

I enrolled to become a Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coach, and immersed myself in the rigorous training.

The process is revolutionary because divorces and break-ups are often needlessly heart-wrenching, and sometimes even vicious. With our emotions rampant, the worst in us can emerge. This is common, because separating is one of the more under-rated traumas we face, the magnitude of which we don’t frequently address.

Two of the most common mis-understandings about Conscious Uncoupling are that it’s designed specifically for couples, and that it’s time-sensitive. Conscious Uncoupling is created for individual exploration. (Although it’s great to do it together, and certainly advisable when possible, the timing of each partner on their healing journey will most often be different. KD and I, for example, attempted to do some Conscious Uncoupling together, but quickly realized we were in very different places.) Also, the process can be done at any time after a parting. The woundings from old relationships can last a long time, and we excavate to get to the source of the issues at hand. After our work together, we will be clear of what stands in our way of love.

The good news is that breaking up/divorcing, in all its devastation, is an opportunity. The pain and difficulties being experienced, with guidance, can be an opening for transformation. The rawness is fertile ground to truly experience “breakdown, then breakthrough”. Having gone through the heartache, loneliness and symphony of complex feelings, to emerge on the other side, I can attest to the magnificence that awaits. I would be delighted to assist you on your path.

Contact us to schedule your 20 minute complimentary session.
Sending and sharing HUGGS,

The 5 steps to Conscious Uncoupling:

  • Step 1: Find Emotional Freedom
  • Step 2: Reclaim Your Power and Your Life
  • Step 3: Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart
  • Step 4: Become a Love Alchemist
  • Step 5: Create Your Happy Even After Life
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